I have felt quite inadequate these past few weeks. I felt like I wasn’t doing enough with my academic and professional life, and when I DID want to do more, I had no motivation to actually do it. It was a sad cycle that I accepted because retweeting memes, sitting in the constant and watching Fresh Prince of Bel-Air episodes made me forget about my sadness and my responsibilities. I was fine with that. I was fine with having monotonous days at work where I calculated how many hours I had until I could be back in bed. I was fine with skipping University classes because I could just read the lecture online anyway. I was fine with not saving as much as I wanted to because I told myself I’d start next week. It’s been 7 weeks of “next weeks”.
You know those people that always talked about their next business move but never actually getting to it? You know those World Ventures (pyramid scheme) type guys that have meetings with an amateur powerpoint trying to convince you that if you joined the ‘team’, you would be flying to Dubai and living in pent house hotel rooms living the good life…yet they were there in front of you, with as much struggle on their lip corners as yours? That’s what I was trying to give to myself for multiple days, a false motivation to get things started but not actually making moves to do it.
Thankfully, I had a great support system. I had ‘Chin Chin’ who was my longest friend, and one of my best friends, who when I told her how demotivated I was..she said “oh damn” . That was what I needed. Thanks Chin Chin. I appreciate the wise words. There was my boyfriend (who you’re YET to hear about) who I also expressed my demotivation to, and he REALLY encouraged me as I needed. He reminded me of the person I was inside, that girl who was always going after opportunities and taking leaps of faith. He reminded me of how successful I was meant to be because I went after what I wanted and never settled. He reminded me of all the reasons he fell in love with me, and seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes is incredibly motivating. I see myself as a dumpling yet this human being sees you as a whole princess, crazy. I rode that high for a while, and I was applying to jobs I was in no way qualified for, I was learning 3 months worth of University level knowledge in one night , I was waking up early and making myself breakfast at 6am and cleaning my room before work. Do you know how motivated you must be with life to fry plantains and scramble eggs at 6am? I was THAT person. I had another great friend of mine, Jamila, who gave me paragraphs upon paragraphs reminding me of the person I truly was to knock me out of this loop of dismay. It was great. I was surrounded by good people.
After riding that high and being motivated for days, things FINALLY started going my way. I was getting “You’ve been shortlisted for an interview” type emails finally, I was getting through exam stresses, and yellow yam was $100 on the market again–prosperity. I was enjoying it. Sometimes all you need is a little push, to tap into yourself and get things done. Positive energy around you and positive thoughts are more powerful than you’ll ever come to realize. The mind is a powerful thing. The energy around you is a powerful thing.
I went out with a friend after weeks of prosperity and had a calm night out. It’s what we both needed to sort of pat ourselves on the back for working hard, and indulging in ourselves…while on a budget of course. We bought movie tickets!
What kind of girls night out would it be without comfort food?
The movie was good I MUST say. It was one of those sort of cliche black movies you just had to watch! The theater was filled with commentators for comedic relief, hands stretching over asking for some of our candy and yeah, we shared and laughed together. It was one big family of absolute strangers who shared one common goal, enjoying the night as it came. I was laughing ALL NIGHT. It was worth it! I think I now have a serious craving for experiences like that.
Afterwards, we headed over to 876 Legends, a bar and lounge in the area. What better way to end a Saturday night than shots? It was all laughs, positivity and happiness.
When’s the last time you’ve felt pure unadulterated happiness mixed with belly laughs and good energy?
Sometimes we let our sadness consume us. I’m in no way trying to pitch the key to getting rid of depression or some key to true happiness. I wouldn’t ever try to allude to that. What I am trying to say however is that you should sometimes allow yourself to tap out of that overwhelming sadness for a second, go out with a good friend, get out of your head, and get distracted. Eat happy food, and take pictures whilst laughing when your cheeks are high and your eyes are squinted. Make the most uneventful night, memorable by just having a positive mindset. If you’re struggling with school, work or your family problems are taking a toll on you? Know that it genuinely does get better. Try to tap into what “better” might feel like every now and then. Stop taking life so seriously sometimes, and enjoy it while you can.
What was the last movie you’ve watched that you genuinely enjoyed? PLEASE let me know ASAP to quench this craving for good movies I now have!
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